You’re Pretty For A Black Girl!
Statements such as “you’re pretty for a black girl” or “you have such beautiful skin it’s really not so dark”, really make me wonder how deep the prejudices of this world run for a person to believe that a statement which degrades a whole race of people could possible be a compliment.
What does ‘pretty for a black girl mean’? What are we expected to look like? Well for a black girl, would imply that black women are ugly in general and that the person in receipt of the “compliment” is in fact a rare exception.
If we take “you have such beautiful skin it’s really not so dark”, then it can only be presumed that dark skin is not favored or considered beautiful, whereas lighter complexions are worthy of compliments.
Often when a black women is beautiful there is a desire to disassociate her from her race in any way possible, or to speak as though she is some form of super exception. What is wrong with simply accepting that a black woman is beautiful simple for being who she is, a black woman?
How I wish people both black and white would STOP discuss rationale for the beauty of a black woman. Often when seeing beautiful black women, rather than hearing ‘O wow she is a beautiful black women’, there is a tendency to hear instead ‘she is really beautiful she must be mixed with something’. Does that mean that black women can only reach the bar of beauty if we are not fully black? If a black woman is beautiful her features will be associated as closely as possible to being European or her hair being indian or her being Latino or anything that is possible so long as her beauty can be recognized for anything other than black. Do people still really associate the physical feature of black women with the below early post slavery propaganda images used to degrade people of African descent in America?
Due to the negative propaganda, stereo-typing of black women and the stigma of slavery which has left still today a high level of racism, we have been brainwashed to believe that black physical features only mean having kinky hair, very dark skin and a broad nose, all of which to me are beautiful african features, but Africa is a large and widely varied continent in terms of the make-up of its people. The people of Africa range from light to dark, straight to kinky hair and straight to rounder noses, plump lips to finer lips. With the immense diversity of black people both of Africa and those that have settled in other countries earlier in history, it’s impossible to take five physical aspects to be associate with every black person on earth.
To assist the understanding of the wide variation of people in Africa there is colour chart below and although I have some reservation about using this chart, it does give some idea of the variation in colour of African people. As for black people being those of African descent, it is clear to see that we do not fall under one strict prototype.
The Wiki definition of black is very interesting as according to Wiki the societal classification of black can be adapted to making those who have less positive aspects black and more positive aspects white. I see this when reference is made to the beauty of black women, as Europeans try to give beautiful black women the stamp of less black and closer to white approval.
[quote author="- Wiki"]The term black people is used in some socially-based systems of racial classification for humans of a dark-skinned phenotype, relative to other racial groups represented in a particular social context. Different societies apply different criteria regarding who is classified as “black”, and often social variables such as class and socio-economic status also play a role, so that relatively dark-skinned people can be classified as white if they fulfill other social criteria of “whiteness” and relatively light-skinned people can be classified as black if they fulfill the social criteria for “blackness” in a particular setting. As a biological phenotype being “black” is often associated with the very dark skin colors of some people who are classified as “black”. But, particularly in the United States, the racial or ethnic classification also refers to people with all possible kinds of skin pigmentation from the darkest through to the very lightest skin colors, including albinos, if they are believed by others to have African ancestry, or to exhibit cultural traits associated with being “African-American”. As a result, in the United States the term “black people” is not an indicator of skin color but of socially based racial classification.[/quote]
Black women are so very beautiful because our features come from a rich and wealthy source of our ancestry from Africa’s varied people. As black people we need to move away from the restrictive mentality that has a strangle hold on the accepted beauty of black women. In whatever shade, wherever in the world, we must all remember that black is beautiful and you are beautiful as a black woman. The next time that someone tells you that you are beautiful for a black girl, tell them that black people are too beautiful to allow you to accept such an insult! Do not allow yourself to be pushed into the black but better than black because you have been stamped by whites “not like other black people”, as at the end of the day, you are what you are. A black woman and a beautiful black woman at that!
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