Love Locked Down: Women In Relationships With Incarcerated Men
Author R. Satiafa, has written a book called Love Locked Down, for women who are in relationships with incarcerated men. The book was wrote to help heal relationships and improve the chances of success despite their men being locked down. Do you buy the book and stand by your man or is imprisonment simply relationship assassination?
All couples have at some point in their cute & cuddly moments asked each other the “would you still love me if” questions. Would you still love me if I put on loads of weight? Would you still love me if I had an accident and couldn’t walk again? Now how about, when your man asks “would you still love me, if I was locked up for years?”, and you said YES, easy, because, he’s not locked up, you don’t ever expect him to be, so it doesn’t really matter and let’s just preserve the cute cuddly talk with pleasant responses. Some of us may choose to be more honest and say “Well… it depends” and list some conditions such as what he went in for, how long he’s going to be in for, etc. But at the end of the day it’s just a cute question for you and your partner, but for some women the question has come in a real and certainly not cute moment before their partner is sentenced to prison.
About the Author and the Book
R. Satifa (Danita Rountree Green) is a writer, educator and cultural researcher who has spent two decades tracking the cultural, social and political impact of incarceration on intimate relationships and the American family. With a particular concern with the extraordinarily disproportionate number of incarcerated black men, her writing has documented the systematic destabilization of black communities due to punitive containment.
Her novel, Love Locked Down, helps women and men heal relationships and improve their chances for successful lives despite the effects of incarceration. She regularly works with women, men and children who have a member of their family (or a loved one) either in prison or struggling to build a productive life following release. Ms. Satiafa is an advocate for reform: promoting job/life skills training, education, and counseling for inmates and their families. She encourages societal changes that will improve the lives of ex-offenders and their families, thus increasing their chances of success post-incarceration.
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Incarnation and Black Relationships
The number of incarnated black men has often been noted, particularly, when looking at the ratio of single black women. According to statistics, there is a higher ratio of young black men in prison than other races. Over the past decade you may remember alarming headlines such as Young Black Men Headed for Extinction, More Black Men In Jail or College and More Black Men In Prison Today Than Enslaved in 1850. The alarming number of black men being imprisoned results in less eligible partners out there for black women. This has become clear in the frequent statistics that are published about single black women. Some authors have written books about black women looking outside of their race to find men as the solutions but author R. Satiafa is working on solutions for preserving black togetherness even when facing incarnation of one of the partners.
Do you think sticking by your man even through incarnation is a healthy way to strengthen your relationship and family or is counting the days, months and years to see your man again too much to contend with? Is the incarnation of black men the main cause for there being a high number of single black women?